Cultivating confidence is made easier through meditation. Calming down your mind and body allows you to focus on an affirmation in a calm state of mind. Meditation for confidence is accomplished by repeating confidence-building statements while you breathe in and out slowly during a practice. You can say each phrase out loud or in your mind. Writing down a specific phrase helps to memorize it and recall it whenever you need a confidence boost.
Advice from a Confidence Coach
According to Dean J. creator of “Fearless Flow Conversation Systems,” I am statements are helpful, but not enough to feel core confidence.
Saying “I am an amazing public speaker” over and over again will just bounce off your brain if you believe you’re an inexperienced speaker. Instead, say something more realistic that you’ll truly believe. Such as “I’ve succeeded in the past even though I was nervous. I am good at presenting when I’m well prepared”
This resistance to believing the latter is created from your subconscious mind deflecting thoughts without any real evidence. The “I am “XYZ” statement might work temporarily, but if it’s not a hundred percent believable, it won’t work. Including evidence within an affirmation proves to your mind that the new core belief is true. Try to recall any past experiences that gave you a good outcome. If you can’t, you have to create those good experiences to gain confidence in your ability.
Experiences that you can control, such as improving your communication skills.
Fearless Flow System goes in-depth about this step by step.
Why Meditation Assists in Changing your Core Beliefs
Combine the affirmation phrase with the breath. Breathing patterns are proven to calm your nervous system and reduce any physical discomfort due to a stress response. Daily stressors such as work, finances, relationship problems, or mental health that interferes with your day-to-day functioning can take a toll on your self-worth and confidence.
What determines your self-worth is the internal stories you tell yourself. If you’re always putting yourself down, it’s likely because your brain resorts to a negative thought from a core belief due to life experiences. Become aware of these thoughts, then let them go. By repeating a new, believable affirmation, it can literally rewire your brain and change your behaviour.
Acceptance is Key
Suffering is a part of life. Accepting that every human suffers through ups and downs is comforting and helpful, which is a term referred to as “radical acceptance” many psychotherapists use in their practice. Once you accept your life situation, it becomes easier to detach your self-esteem built on external things. Then, you can focus on what you can change.
Also, accepting yourself for who you are will deepen your self-confidence. By repeating, “I accept myself completely,” every day will eventually make its way into your subconscious mind to remove feelings of insecurity.
Hope Affirmation
A helpful affirmation is “My best is good enough. What’s meant to be will be”
This phrase uses trust in your ability and in the universe. You can always improve your confidence by getting better at something, but that takes time. A part of feeling confident isn’t always succeeding, but it’s about putting yourself out there with a belief in yourself that you will. Even if you don’t get something you want, you’ll be okay because you have the confidence to try again the next time.
True confidence is knowing who you are and what you have to offer. Meditating once a day with new repeated affirmations can give you the confidence boost you need to feel your best self, especially if you’re not there yet.
